Sunday, May 24, 2015

Pelajar, pelajaran, pelengkapan.

Auditory dan fast learner

Saya sebagai belajar, memang mudah faham dan tangkap apa diajar guru. Saya anggap itu kelebihan diri saya. Asalkan saya dengar terus Penerangan Dari muluy guru, inshaa Allah akan dapat tangkap terus.

Tapi kelebihan saya juga merupakan kelemahan saya. Oleh kerana mudah faham, saya tidak melakukan kerja lebih. Natijahnya, saya faham apa yang guru ajarkan sahaja. Tidak dapat lebih dari itu.

Pelengkap

Suami saya pula, sangat detail dan kadangkala ia merimaskan saya. Perkara mudah pun mahu tanya banyak-banyak kali. Sudah terang-terang tugasannya begini, ditanya begitu pula. Aduh. Kusut kepala.

Qadar Allah, kami mendaftar untuk kelas 24 minggu bersama-sama. Saya memang agak suspen hendak hadir kelas bersama nya.

Semalam pertembungan attitude ini berlaku. Jika 12 tahun lalu, pasti saya tarik muka.

:)

Allah memang takdirkan perkahwinan bertujuan melengkapi satu sama lain.

Kita tetap perlu berusaha.

Saya masih pelajar yang sama.


New oil pulling recipe

I added thievea to my oil for oil pulling. It leaves a minty and fresh feeling.

I am loving it.

Been oil pulling since 2009, but i didnt really do it religously normally due to no oil available at home.

:p

Thieves are combibation of:-

Clove (Syzygium aromaticum)† bud oil, Lemon (Citrus limon)† peel oil, Cinnamon (Cinnamomum verum)† bark oil, Eucalyptus (Eucalyptus radiata)† leaf oil, Rosemary (Rosmarinus officinalis)† leaf oil


Saturday, May 23, 2015

Love for Oiling




Only God knows how long I have been holding the need to buy essential oils.
I always knew it is good. What's not good about oil derived from natural resources? But there were to many questions to answer before I start spending (my time and money) on it.

Just for records, I havent been on medicine for at least 3 years. I was the person who would stock up meds for fever, flu, cough in the fridge. I even had to rely on ponstan (and caffagot) for my migraine. It was me until one day I think enough is enough. It doesn't work for me anymore because at that time I took 3 tablets a day and the pain still there in my head. :(

I switched to homeopathy and still on it till now. Complemented with cupping (bekam) and accupunture. Changed my diet and even went to chiropractor, hopefully it would help me with the issues.

Alhamdulillah, Allah gave me good health without having to rely on the drugs anymore

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So you may ask, why essential oil? Is it a medicine?

No-lah!

Allah provides us with so many resources. Plant and flowers. Roots and herbs. :)

I know it would help me improve the quality of living. Ecewah.

I got so envy with my fellow friends who had started to play around with the oils. I want to do the same.

Recently I met Sabrina and she shared with me her oil stash and recipes. And the rest is history.

So now, I am an oil dropper. Inshaa Allah, there's an oil (or more) for every situation and condition.

I  not alone in this journey. The mini-me (z) loves the oil too. I even had to hide the box from her.

At this rate, I think I might need to replenish my oil soon.

:p


Thursday, May 21, 2015

Konsep Qada dan Qadar melalui pemahaman kosmologi

Al-'Anbyā':30 - Dan tidakkah orang-orang kafir itu memikirkan dan mempercayai bahawa sesungguhnya langit dan bumi itu pada asal mulanya bercantum (sebagai benda yang satu), lalu Kami pisahkan antara keduanya? Dan Kami jadikan dari air, tiap-tiap benda yang hidup? Maka mengapa mereka tidak mahu beriman?

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Sebelum Big Bang.

Masa tiada. Ruang vacuum.

Big Bank berlaku.

Apabila dipisahkan, Maka ruang wujud, masa pun wujud. Tenaga pun wujud.

Masa itu relatif.

Jika Masa diukur dengan guna matahari,1 hari bersamaan 24 jam mengikut pusingan bumi mengikut orbit.

Namun 1 hari di akhirat = 57 tahun di bumi.

Allah berada di luar kesemua ini.
Allah berada diluar masa kiraan di bumi.

Allah mengetahui apa yang telah berlaku, akan berlaku dan sedang berlaku. Kerana Allah tidak terikat dengan takrifan masa kita.

Maka jelas, Allah Maha Mengetahui.

#QadaQadar
#cosmology


Kisah Persalinan Maryam dari Ibrah Surah Maryam










Maryam:23 - (Ketika ia hendak bersalin) maka sakit beranak itu memaksanya (pergi bersandar) ke pangkal sebatang pohon tamar (kurma); ia berkata alangkah baiknya kalau aku mati sebelum ini dan menjadilah aku sesuatu yang dilupakan orang dan tidak dikenang-kenang!

Maryam menyebut tentang mati.  Dalam ayat sama cakap Pasal sakit Bersalin. Pada mufassirin said, maryam bukan berkeluh kesah kerana sakit nak beranak, but dia khuatir akan fitnah kepada agama apabila anak nya lahir kelak.

Kesan fitnah kepada agama lebih besar Dari sakit Bersalin.

Maryam:24 - Lalu ia diseru dari sebelah bawahnya:" Janganlah engkau berdukacita (wahai Maryam), sesungguhnya Tuhanmu telah menjadikan di bawahmu sebatang anak sungai.

Ayat 24: sebatang anak sungai.

Ada air, sungai kecil untuk minum dan menyucikan anak selepas kelahiran.

Air is also important to keep hydrated.

Maryam:25 - Dan gegarlah ke arahmu batang pohon tamar itu, supaya gugur kepadamu buah tamar yang masak.

Ayat 25: Barang Tamar itu bukan barang yang berbuah. Sunatullah tak berlaku disini.

Sunatullah ialah buah Tamar Masak dan dikait, tapi perkataan  "annakhlati" bukan pokok Tamar yang berbuah

Namun Allah suruh gegar, untuk ajar ada konsep kemenangan Islam disini.

Ikhtiar, baru Allah Bantu.

U want something, u must do something and Allah will help you.

Allah boleh bagi je Tamar tu jatuh.

Kazalik.

But why did Allah asked maryam to shook the tree?

Usahalah sikit...

Tak perlu goncang kuat-kuat. Allah knows kekuatan orang nak Bersalin taklah kuat Mana nak goncang pokok Tamar sampai buah jatuh, but goncanglah sikit. Allah akan Bantu.

Dalam zaman sekarang, jaga kesihatan sebelum usaha mendapatkan anak, semasa Bersalin, dan ketika persalinan.

Get fit, be fit.

Jaga makan.
Jaga kondisi anak dalam kandungan.
Belajar anatomi.  Hadiri kelas.
Shop for supporting doctors/hospital/birth centers.
If you decide to do it elsewhere, be informed.
Cari bantuan jika diperlukan.

Selepas ikhtiar, kemudian tawakkal.

What else we can learn from surah maryam?

Kesolehan maryam menerima sakit kerana sakit itu datang Dari Allah.

Whatever comes from Allah is good in His knowledge. Gentle birthing is not all about gentle, natural, calm.

We want Allah to please with us, blessed us with contentment.

Same for us who are advocating and educating ppl.

Maryam:26 - "Maka makanlah dan minumlah serta bertenanglah hati dari segala yang merunsingkan. Kemudian kalau engkau melihat seseorang manusia, maka katakanlah: Sesungguhnya aku bernazar diam membisu kerana (Allah) Ar-Rahman; (setelah aku menyatakan yang demikian) maka aku tidak akan berkata-kata kepada sesiapapun dari kalangan manusia pada hari ini".

In this ayat, makan lah dan minum lah adalah sunatullah. So eat and drink.

Bertenanglah Hati Dari segala yang merungsingkan.

Sesungguhnya aku bernazar berdiam membisu....

My note was,

Apabila difitnah, Memilih untuk diam adalah lebih baik Dari berkata-kata.

sambung ayat 27:

Maryam kembali ke kaumnya dan mendukung anaknya.

Mendukung shows she carried her child, breastfed Isa a.s..(breastfeeding, baby wearing)..

:)


Note to educators: How to spread knowledge to people?

Students will learn from likeable teacher. Be likeable!


Isra' Mikraj (sebelum, semasa dan selepas)

Isra' mikraj ialah Hadiah Dari Allah kepada Nabi Muhammad saw untuk memotivasikan baginda.

Sebelum peristiwa isra' mikraj, berlaku perkara yang mendukacitakan Baginda sehingga tahun tersebut dikenali sebagai tahun dukacita.

Pakciknya Abu Talib dan isterinya khadijah meninggal dunia pada tahun tersebut.

Baginda sangat sedih. Dengan ketiadaan kedua orang kesayangan baginda ini, Kaum kafir Quraisy akan lebih teruk menindas orang Islam.

Maka baginda berhijrah ke Taif dengan harapan akan mendapat sokongan Dari orang di Taif. Malangnya di sini lebih teruk Baginda dihina. Jika di Mekah, kanak-kanak menyayangi Baginda, di Taif pula, bukan sahaja pemimpinnya, malahan kanak-kanak juga membaling batu kepada baginda sehinga berdarah-darah baginda.

Jibril marah dan berkata jika setitis darah Baginda jatuh kebumi, jibril akan membalikkan bumi Taif.

Tapi apa kata baginda?

Baginda halang. Kata baginda, jika Jibril buat begitu, siapa pula yang akan mengikut ajarannya nanti.

Selain berdoa, menjadi Sunnah juga kepada kita untuk merintih kepada Allah.

Baginda merintih kepada Allah dengan DOA yang dikenali sebagai DOA Taif.


Dua’a at-Ta’if



Dua’a at-Ta’if- translation

“O Allah! Unto You do I complain of my weakness, of my helplessness and of my lowliness before men.  

O most Merciful of the merciful. 

O Lord of the weak and my Lord too. 

Into whose hands have you entrusted me?  Unto some far off stranger who receives me with hostility? 

Or unto a foe whom you have empowered against me? 

I care not, so long as You are not angry with me. 

But Your favouring help, that were for me the broader way and the wider scope.  

I take refuge in the light of Your countenance whereby all darknesses is illuminated and all things of this world and the next are rightly ordered, 

lest You make descend Your anger upon me or lest Your wrath beset me. 

Yet it is Yours to reproach until You are well pleased. 

There is no power and no might except through Thee.”



Dua’a at-Ta’if- transliteration

Allahuma inni ashku ilayka da'fa quwwati
wa qillata hilati wa hawani 'alan naas
ya arhamur rahimeen
annta Rabbul mustad'afeen wa anta rabbi
iliman takiluni?
illa ba'eedin yatajahhamuni?
aw li 'aduwwin mallaktahu amri?
illam yakun bika 'alay ghadabun fa la ulbaali
walakin 'aafiyatuka heya awsa'u li
a'uthu binoori wajhika allathi ashrakat lahu a thulumaat
wa salaha 'alayhi amrudunya wal akhira
min an yanzila bi ghadubak aw yahilla 'allaya sakhutak
lakal 'utbu hatta tarda
wala hawla wala quwwata illa billah al 'alyul 'atheem.

Prophet Muhammad(peace and blessings be upon him.

Wahai Tuhanku, kepada Engkau aku adukan kelemahan tenagaku dan kekurangan daya-upayaku pada pandangan manusia.

Wahai Tuhan yang Maha Rahim kepada sesiapa Engkau menyerahkan daku? Kepada musuh yang akan menerkamkan aku ataukah kepada keluarga yang engkau berikan kepadanya uruskanku, tidak ada keberatan bagiku asal aku tetap dalam keredhaanMu.

Dalam pada itu afiatMu lebih luas bagiku.
Aku berlindung dengan cahaya mukaMu yang mulia yang menyinari segala langit dan menerangi segala yang gelap dan atasnyalah teratur segala urusan dunia dan akirat, dari Engkau menimpakan atas diriku kemarahanMu atau dari Engkau turun atasku azabMu kepada Engkaulah aku adukan hal ku sehingga Engkau redha.

Tidak ada daya dan upaya melainkan dengan Engkau."
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Kemudian Allah menyampaikan cerita bahawa baginda akan diangkat kelangit untuk berjumpa Allah.

Melalui perjalanan mikraj itu, Nabi Muhammad saw mendapat semangat daripada penduduk dilangit.

Di langit pertama, Nabi Adam menyapanya dengan wahai anakku Yang soleh..

Kemudian diikuti dengan sapaan daripada nabi Isa dan nabi yahya dan lain-lain dengan wahai saudaraku yang soleh.

Kemudian disapa oleh nabi ibrahim a.s dengan sapaan wahai anakku yang soleh..

Bayangkan berapa gembiranya baginda mendapat semangat daripada Nabi-nabi terdahulu.

Allah nak beri tahu bahawa, kerja dakwah ini bukan lah Nabi Muhammad pemulanya. Ia Sudah dimulakan lama dahulu Oleh nabi-nabi terdahulu. nabi muhammad saw adalah penyambungnya. (Sama seperti kita, adalah Mata rantai kepada dakwah nabi saw).

selepas nabi muhammad kembali ke kaumnya, nabi pun berhijrah ke Yathrib (madinah) dan mendapat sokongan dan dokongan daripada kaum Ansar dan Muhajirin.


We must be smart. Nabi saw returned to Makkah 8 years later to reopen Makkah (fathu Makkah).

Abu sufyan reported that, mereka tak sangka muhammad saw boleh kembali ke mekah dengan puluhan ribu tentera.

We may not get to see the changes we want now, but let's make progress. Slow and steady.


Kaedah Berdakwah Nabi Ibrahim a.s

Nota Dari Seminar Ibrah Surah Maryam.

Kaedah memujuk dan mempengaruhi.

1. Pandang dengan kasih sayang. People don't care how much you know until they know how much you care.

Rujuk ayat 42.

Ya abbati, wahai ayahku (yang aku sayang)..

Uslub lebih tinggi Dari ya Abi.

2. Ketuk mereka dengan pintu logik (reason).

Guna senses.

Dengar, nampak, rasa.

(Baca terjemahan ayat)

Dengar ialah deria yang lebih dominant, visual diikuti kinetetik.

Ayat 43:

Rujuk terjemahan,

Telah datang kepadaku Dari Ilmu pengetahuan yang tidak pernah datang kepadamu...

Merendah diri.
Uslub(kaedah) : mirroring.

Samakan level kita kepada dia.
Jangan tunjuk kita ni lebih tahu dari dia.

Ayat 44:

Gambarkan dengan kasih sayang..

Nabi Ibrahim guna sifat Allah Ar Rahman.

Menunjukkan yang Allah tu Maha Penyayang, kenapa sampai Hati nak Derhaka pada Allah.

Ayat 45:

Again sifat ar Rahman.

Kerana sayang dan cintakan mad'u (orang yang kita dakwah), Maka kita sampaikan..

Marilah bersama kita.

Keberkesanan dakwah ialah, orang yang kita bercakap dengan nya nak dengar apa kita kata sampai habis.

Dalam ayat-ayat ini, bapa Nabi Ibrahim a.s dengar apa Nabi Ibrahim a.s cakap sampai Sudah.

Maka, at least, kita tahu ia berkesan.

Ayat 46:

Jawapan bapa nabi ibrahim. Menolak ajakanya baginda.

Ayat 47:

Baginda respond kepada tolakan tersebut.

DOA yang baik2.

Tidak meninggalkan kata-kata kesat kerana ditolak.

Jaga hubungan.

Ayat 48:

Move on.

DOA supaya usaha kita diterima.


Friday, April 10, 2015

Practical Parenting Advice

A friend share mashaaAllah ,Practical Parenting Advice

Spent a lovely afternoon getting parenting advice from Shaykh Faraz Rabbani (a father of 3 children himself, masha'Allah) at ILM Tree . Some of the nuggets I managed to gather from him:

You're not responsible for your children's actions, only for what you teach them (or don't teach them).

Focus on teaching your children adab and akhlaq (manners and etiquette); parents don't emphasize these enough any more. Have adab with yourself before you set out to teach adab -- that means "pausing". Be willing to pause before reacting.

Adab is the capacity to have the appropriate action, attitude, and response in any given situation.

Oftentimes we do more damage by how we react to our children's mishaps. When we lose our temper with our kids, we're still "teaching" them; we're just not teaching them the appropriate reaction to life's adversities and challenges. Our kids are always learning from us.

Criticizing your children is a bid'ah (a blameworthy innovation); it's not from the Sunnah (way of the Prophet). Don't criticize; don't nag. Nagging your children about everything is a good way to guarantee that they don't listen to you about anything. Nagging never works.

Sometimes the correct response is to not say anything.

If you want to know how to raise teenagers, look at the life of Anas (radiAllahu anhu); he lived in the house of the Prophet (salallaahu alaihi wasallam) from the age of 10 to 20. He broke things and made mistakes, but the Prophet (saw) never focused on whatever Allah had already destined; he never shamed Anas (rA) for his mistakes. He only focused on gentle teaching and gentle reminders. (i.e. "Did you take care of that task I asked you to do?" rather than "Why haven't you done what I asked you to do yet?! How many times do I have to remind you?!")

Children who have not yet attained the age of puberty are not held accountable by Allah (swt) even if they commit murder (God forbid), so who are we to freak out on our kids for "little things" like spilled milk?

When the Prophet (saw) saw another young sahabah (companion) eating greedily from all over a plate, he gently told him, "Say Allah's Name before eating; eat with your right hand; and eat from what is in front of you." He didn't criticize him for his (lack of) manners; he only told him the correct way to eat and then moved on.

We are not police officers or judges when it comes to our children; rather, we should be like shepherds -- we should try to gently guide them in the direction of where we want them to eventually end up.

Complaining about your children to friends is blameworthy; however, consulting with ppl who have wisdom and experience is praiseworthy. Don't talk to just anyone about you r concerns regarding your children.

When asked about getting kids to pray or to wear the hijab, he reminded us that Islam is not about do's and  don'ts and a bunch of rules; it's about the heart. We need to teach kids to have hearts that are directed towards pleasing their Lord. They should desire on their own to live lives of taqwa (God-consciousness). We must model taqwa for them by how we live our own lives. Some children may need gentle nudges and reminders to do the right thing.

All virtues are virtuous; anything virtuous should be taught to and emphasized for BOTH genders (like modesty and lowering the gaze and gentleness). Boys should not be shamed for being shy. Shyness is praiseworthy.

Prayer should be a pleasant experience for the kids. He talked about his own children taking turns saying their personal duas aloud after prayer time; sometimes the kids would fall into hugging and wrestling on the prayer mat afterwards.

Teach kids about the Prophet Muhammad's (saw) life.

Remind yourself about what your parents did RIGHT.

Don't become self-satisfied and overly confident in your parenting.

Seek Allah's Pleasure through your own parenting, and facilitate for your children to seek Allah's Pleasure as well.

Aim high in both spiritual and worldly matters. Do dhikr (remembrance of Allah) and call on Allah for Help. Don't just ask that He make your kids into good Muslims; ask Him to make your kids from amongst the best and most virtuous of all Muslims ever. Trust in Him to answer your duas. Nothing is impossible for Allah.